How life used to be (2017 picture):
I had a successful 12 year career in financial services, and went on to start my own consulting company.
I achieved success in a very short space of time.
I had a nice car, big salary, my own house in London, a comfortable relationship.
At the same time,
I experienced intense levels of stress and pressure (often self imposed)
to perform in business & in the bedroom.
Early mornings, late nights, 60+ hour work weeks for years.
A mix of porn, hookups & apps became my way to de-stress / escape.
I was totally unaware of how this was causing destruction in my life.
I thought it was normal, everybody does this right?
In reality, I was ruining my relationship,
I began struggling to stay hard, experiencing performance anxiety
and loosing my sense of self.
2018 was the year I woke up.
My Dad passed away.
I quit my corporate job and took time out and travel the world.
Peru to China, Tibet to India, Ethiopia to Malawi and many places in between.
It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Fast forward 3 years.
Performance Anxiety was now even more intense.
Multiple experiences didn’t go to plan.
My relationship ended.
I felt like less of a man.
I was asking myself “Can I be fixed, or am I like this for life?”
I wanted things to go back to how they used to be.
I decided to hire my first coach for a year.
Mainly out of frustration for feeling like I wasn’t matching what I knew I was capable of.
In life, In business and in the bedroom.
I wanted to tell them I was struggling with performance anxiety.
I wanted to say that I didn’t know why this was happening to me.
Though for so long I felt embarrassed.
I didn’t say anything.
It wasn’t until the 6th of December, 2021…
Month 10 of coaching,
That I finally built up the courage to say the words…
“I feel angry and I don’t know why.”
On that very phone call, I burst into tears.
I realised the impact performance anxiety was having on my life.
How it was spilling over into so many other areas of my life.
I made 2 promises in that moment:
1 – To find the mindset tools to fix this for myself
2 – To help other men do the same
Everything changed.
It was the beginning of me actually opening up about this.
It was time to get this fixed…
Years later,
After working with the best mindset coaches in the world…
Including Tony Robbins, Annie Lalla, Marissa Peer, Eben Pagan, Anand Rao & Dean Graziosi…
I learnt the tools needed to fix performance anxiety.
Now I help other men to do then same.
The good news – this doesn’t take years.
If what you’ve read feels relatable,
You’re not alone.
You can get this fixed.
Schedule you complimentary information call with me & let’s get this sorted.