Hi, I’m Shay. I help men to fix Sexual Performance Anxiety, So that you can Feel Normal Again!
– If you worry ‘What if I can’t get it up!?’ / ‘What if it happens again!?’ / ‘What’s wrong with me!?’ – If you think ‘I want to get out of my head’ / ‘Am I broken!?’ / ‘I want to satisfy my partner’ Then you’re in the right place to get this sorted.
If you want to stop embarrassment in bed, & avoid feeling like less of a man… Then I’d like to be your guide.
Here you can learn more about: – Stories of other men who have experienced this (scroll down to see John, Nick & Tim) – My own journey – How to schedule a call so that you can get this fixed
Anything we discuss is confidential.
Client testimonials:
John – Male, Mid 40’s
“Before speaking with Shay, I was experiencing severe erectile dysfunction due to past experiences that didn’t go to plan. I tried various solutions, watching countless videos and also therapy, all without success.
Life was challenging; the impact on my mental health was profound, it lead to depression and put a huge strain on my relationship. Over time my relationship became more fragile, we were on the verge of signing for a divorce. My wife and I really struggled with the inability to have a satisfying intimate connection.
After working with Shay, I was able to regain my confidence, in myself and in the bedroom. My relationship is in a much better place and now we have a renewed sense of connection. When it comes to s*x, we now enjoy intimacy two to three times a week! My s*x life is totally fulfilling, I feel connected and present with my partner. My life overall is significantly improved.
My advice to those facing sexual performance anxiety or erection problems is to seek coaching. Shay will provide the tools and coaching needed. He will help you overcome these challenges, and take your life and relationships to the next level.
I recommend Shay because of his huge transformative impact on my life.”
Nick – Male, Late 50’s
Tim – Male, Late 60’s
“Before speaking with Shay, I was having performance problems in the bedroom. I felt very nervous, my heartbeat was pounding and I was sweating any time it came to trying intimacy.
My wife and I have been together since high school and have a family of four children. We’d never experienced problems in the bedroom before.
At first, my wife and I avoided talking about this. Until one day, I overheard my wife talking to her friend… I heard her say it had been five years since we were last intimate. I had no idea it had been so long!
Working with Shay, I realised performance anxiety was the cause of my problems. Shay worked with me and I learnt the tools to overcome this with his help.
My relationship now feels back to normal. It’s fun, with no stress and it’s exciting again! It’s nice to know when we want to be intimate, I now have the confidence to do it. It makes me feel young again!
My advise to people who are experiencing the same problem…Don’t wait, it doesn’t fix itself!! Shay has a very respectful way of working with you on this uncomfortable topic.
Thanks again Shay for your help!!“
P.S – From my wife: “I can’t thank you enough for helping us out with our intimacy problems. This wife is very happy now!”
Richard – Male, Late 40’s
“I was experiencing frequent erectile dysfunction. It felt like I never knew what was going to happen in the bedroom.
The things I tried didn’t always work. It had really impacted my life, I felt like I wasn’t normal. It really affected my confidence.
Sex felt like something that was for other people. I would avoid talking about it, I felt like I had something to hide.
After working with Shay, I was able to get to the bottom of what was going on. I realised why past experiences had such an impact on my sex life for so long. I was making basic mistakes over and over again.
Now I feel so much more positive about my sex life, even my morning erections are back & harder than before!
I’ve recently come out of a long term relationship, without Shay’s help I would have been so afraid of what would happen with a new partner. I now feel more confident both in and out of the bedroom. I no longer feel guilty or shameful about things in the bedroom.
My advice to people who are experiencing sexual performance anxiety is to contact Shay. He will guide you through understanding why it is happening and get it fixed.
I recommend Shay because he has experienced these issues and got over them in his own life. This will improve every area of your life!”
Brian – Male, Late 20’s
“After working with Shay I was able to understand why I was experiencing performance anxiety. He taught me how to address my mental battles. I now feel confident about myself and how I approach intimacy. And I feel a lot better about my sex life!”
Lance – Male, Early 70’s
“I was experiencing a lot of sex anxiety, particularly around not being able to climax. I found myself overthinking constantly… “What does she think of me?” or “What I should be doing?”
I’d tried a number of treatments, including meditation and long-term psychotherapy.
It was Shay who gave me the tools, to deal with this in an effective way. He led me through a series mindset exercises, where I re-learnt and re-evaluated my attitude towards sex. I am now free of the thoughts which have held me back for years!
I enjoy the present moment and pleasure with my partner. I feel like I have comprehensive set of tools, and a new understanding. It has opened a world of enjoyment!
Shay is a sincere and deep listener. He really made the effort to understand me, and how best to work with me. I’ll never forget that.
I’m 73 and proof that it’s not too late to open up a new world of joy!”
Michael – Male, Early 40’s
“Shay is relatable & has been invaluable to me. Today my life feels like a dream. I feel connected to my partner and our closeness is now exceptional. I absolutely recommend him.”
Arjun – Male, Mid 30’s
“Shay was in my corner every step of the way. He knows me better than any therapist I’d seen. I now have a clear direction in my life and I feel hope again. I’m no longer afraid. I encourage you to give Shay a shot.”
Joe – Male, Late 20’s
“I put into practise the tools that Shay shared and it worked!! Last night I was able to get hard and have sex without using anything!”
Daniel – Male, Late 20’s
“Before speaking with Shay, I was experiencing heavy anxiety after a bad sexual experience. I lost faith and confidence in myself. I had constant negative thoughts, I couldn’t focus, I was constantly worried and on edge.
I’d tried different methods of keeping anxiety controlled, like meditation, and more. Sometimes they helped, but they didn’t solve it. Life was difficult and I began to lack motivation for it.
After working with Shay, I was able to work through my patterns and change them. Shay was a much needed guide towards emotional stability.
I now feel in control of my life. I’m in control of my emotions and reactions. My sex life is much, much better! And my relationship has significantly changed for the better. I feel relaxed before and during sex. I no longer get anxious. And I know how to deal with anxiety.
My advice to people dealing with sexual performance anxiety and feeling lost, is that you have to know for a fact that it can be overcome.
If you’re a man experiencing performance anxiety or erection issues, you will benefit a great deal from speaking with Shay.
A path to overcome this will be shown to you. Something I found extremely difficult to see before talking to Shay.”
Jake – Male, Early 30’s
“Before speaking with Shay my life felt unfulfilling and lonely, my sex life was impacting my relationship with my partner and my social life, also my productivity at work.
After talking with Shay and trying the tools he gave me, I was able to discover what caused this.
One of the biggest changes was that watching porn went from a daily occurrence to none at all. I started to feel like a weight had been lifted off me and that my life had expanded past the bubble I’d made for myself.
Now my life is more fulfilling, I have richer experiences and relationships and I don’t feel like a slave to a screen.
My advice to people who feel unsure/embarrassed is to send a message to Shay. Realize that you aren’t alone. This type of struggle is so difficult to get through on your own.
Having guidance will help you work through it.”
Victor – Male, Late teens
“Before speaking with Shay, I felt like my life was boring and meaningless. I thought I couldn’t make my dreams reality and that I wouldn’t have a healthy or happy relationship with a real woman.
After speaking with Shay, I totally opened my mind. I realised how my old behaviours were keeping me stuck.
I was shocked when I saw this reality (like an emotional pain), but it was necessary.
Now my life is calm, I’m happy. I feel better about myself, and I feel confident to be social and go outside of my house.
My advice if you feel like your relationship isn’t good, is to seek support. Unfortunately we have a fear of being judged or mocked. The reality is that nobody is perfect. This can hit anybody.”
