How life used to be (2017 picture):
I had a successful 12 year career in financial services, followed by building my own consulting company.
Despite dropping out of school at 16 and needing to find my own way, success happened in a relatively short space of time.
On paper everything was great, a nice car, big salary, a house in London, a comfortable relationship.
At the same time,
I experienced intense levels of stress and pressure (often self imposed)
to perform both in business & in the bedroom.
Over the years, a mix of porn, hookups & apps became my way to de-stress / escape.
I was totally unaware of how this was negatively impacting my life.
I thought it was normal, everybody does this right?
In reality, I was ruining my relationship,
I began struggling to stay hard and experiencing performance anxiety.
Quite honestly I lost my sense of self.
2018 was the year I woke up.
My Dad passed away.
I quit my corporate job and took time out and travel the world.
Peru to China, Tibet to India, Ethiopia to Malawi and many places in between.
It was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Despite that, Performance Anxiety had become even more intense.
Multiple experiences didn’t go to plan. Sex started to feel like a test.
I was forcing myself into it to try and prove I could or to feel a sense of validation.
My relationship had ended.
I felt like less of a man.
I wondered it it would be like this for life…
I decided to hire my first coach for a year.
Mainly out of frustration for feeling like I wasn’t matching my potential,
In business and in the bedroom.
I wanted to tell them I was struggling with performance anxiety.
I wanted to say that I didn’t know why this was happening.
Though for so long I felt embarrassed & ashamed.
I didn’t say anything.
It wasn’t until the 6th of December, 2021…
Month 10 out of a 12 month coaching package,
That I finally built up the courage to say the words…
“I feel angry and I don’t know why.”
On that very phone call, I burst into tears.
I realized the anger, the self doubt, the uncertainty was all stemming from my sexual challenges.
It was spilling over into so many other areas of my life.
I made 2 promises in that moment:
1 – To find the path to fix this
2 – To help other men do the same
Everything changed.
It was the beginning of me actually opening up about this.
It was time to get this fixed…
Years later,
After working with who I consider to be some of the very best mindset coaches in the world…
Including Tony Robbins, Annie Lalla, Marissa Peer, Eben Pagan, Anand Rao & Dean Graziosi…
Along with spending countless hour’s reading 10’s of books.
I learnt the tools needed to fix performance anxiety.
Now I help other men to do then same.
The good news – this doesn’t need to take years.
If what you’ve read feels relatable,
You’re not alone.
You can get this fixed.
Schedule you complimentary information call with me & let’s get this sorted.