I Help Male Business Owners Fix Sexual Performance Anxiety.
Hi, I’m Shay. I help male business owners over 40 fix sexual performance anxiety, rebuild sexual confidence and connection with their partner.
I struggled with sexual performance anxiety for years. On paper everything looked great, a great career, a consulting business, nice house in London, nice car…
But in my intimate relationship, sexual performance anxiety left me questioning myself.
I didn’t understand why sex & erections weren’t going to plan & I didn’t want to talk to anyone about it. Things got worse, not better.
When I realised all of this was coming from the way I was having sex, I decided to learn how to change it.
As a result, I got my sexual confidence back and I’ve now helped hundreds of men to fix sexual performance anxiety.
Testimonials from other men:
Gary – Male, Mid 50’s
“My erection quality had diminished massively. I was losing my erection during s*x or I wasn’t able to get hard. It was affecting my relationship and my general mood. I tried ED meds which worked for a while and then stopped working. I tried Trimix, but I wanted my natural erections back.
I felt like physically I could still do it, but I couldn’t do it when I wanted to mentally.
Now my erections are back to how they were before, I have a lot more erections and they are even firmer. My wife let me know she’s glad our intimate life is back and that she missed it.
It has strengthened our marriage and spilled over into many other areas of my life.“
Nick – Male, Late 50’s
Lewis – Male, Early 40’s
“I was really sceptical before thinking about talking with Shay because I’d spoken with medical doctors, therapists, psychiatrists, took SSRI’s, ED meds & had testosterone checks. None of that was working.
I wasn’t able to get erect or stay erect long enough to be able to do anything. There was no happiness or pleasure in these moments, it was nothing but a test.
Now my s*x life is much less pressure, I enjoy it. I have harder erections, I fully climax and people have even been vocal about satisfaction.”
Jefferson – Male, Mid 50’s
“I tried pills & injections, I kept getting stuck in my head & couldn’t get an erection during s*x. I’d go into a shame spiral.
Now I feel free sexually, I’m having the best s*x of my life right now!”
Tom – Male, Mid 30’s
“It was a constant fear of not being myself & letting my wife down.
I tried meditation, breathing exercises, CBT, ACT, EFT therapy, they didn’t stop the spiral. It eroded my self confidence and I felt stressed all day.
S*x & intimacy now is great, I no longer feel stressed & ashamed. I’m now more confident both in myself and as a man.”
Andrew – Male, Late 70’s
“For 6 years I was experiencing erection issues. I tried viagra, it gave me headaches. I looked online, I read books, I tried breathing exercises & distracting myself with p*rn. I tried hypnosis. I spoke with doctors who told me it was mental. Nothing was really working.
Now I don’t have any stress. Every week that went by I felt less and less stressed. I’m having no issues getting and keeping an erection. My wife is pleased and our relationship feels even closer. I’m very pleased with everything going on now.”
James – Male, Late 40’s
“I was very nervous about my performance in bed. I’d tried ED meds, NoFapp, Quitting P*rn & Masturbation, nothing seemed to change or help with the problem.
I became more like friends with my partner instead of feeling like a couple. I didn’t want to have s*x because I know I wouldn’t be able to get hard.
Now I have more morning wood back, my ability to maintain an erection during intimacy has much improved and I reach climax with my partner stimulating me which is great!
I feel excited about s*x with my partner and not stressed anymore!”
Dan – Male, Early 40’s
“I felt frustrated and powerless. I wanted to control things in the bedroom more than I could. I felt like I couldn’t be myself.
I tried stop start techniques, edging, kegel exercises and it felt like they all scratched the surface.
Before I felt like I was scrambling around. Now I certainly feel like s*x is fun and even more, now I know how to keep it feeling fun! I’ve really learned a lot.”
Alex – Male, Mid 40’s
“I realised there is no way the results would’ve worked in the way they have, if I hadn’t gone this deep & explored the issues that led to this happening.”
John – Male, Mid 40’s
“Before speaking with Shay, I was experiencing severe performance problems due to past experiences that didn’t go to plan. I tried various solutions, watching countless videos and also therapy, all without success.
Life was challenging; the impact on my mental health was profound, it lead to depression and put a huge strain on my relationship. Over time my relationship became more fragile, we were on the verge of signing for a divorce. My wife and I really struggled with the inability to have a satisfying intimate connection.
After working with Shay, I was able to regain my confidence, in myself and in the bedroom. My relationship is in a much better place and now we have a renewed sense of connection. When it comes to s*x, we now enjoy intimacy two to three times a week! My s*x life is totally fulfilling, I feel connected and present with my partner. My life overall is significantly improved.
My advice to those facing sexual performance anxiety or erection problems is to seek coaching. Shay will provide the tools and coaching needed. He will help you overcome these challenges, and take your life and relationships to the next level.
I recommend Shay because of his huge transformative impact on my life.”
Tim – Male, Late 60’s
“Before speaking with Shay, I was having performance problems in the bedroom. I felt very nervous, my heartbeat was pounding and I was sweating any time it came to trying intimacy.
My wife and I have been together since high school and have a family of four children. We’d never experienced problems in the bedroom before.
At first, my wife and I avoided talking about this. Until one day, I overheard my wife talking to her friend… I heard her say it had been five years since we were last intimate. I had no idea it had been so long!
Working with Shay, I realised performance anxiety was the cause of my problems. Shay worked with me and I learnt the tools to overcome this with his help.
My relationship now feels back to normal. It’s fun, with no stress and it’s exciting again! It’s nice to know when we want to be intimate, I now have the confidence to do it. It makes me feel young again!
My advise to people who are experiencing the same problem…Don’t wait, it doesn’t fix itself!! Shay has a very respectful way of working with you on this uncomfortable topic.
Thanks again Shay for your help!!“
P.S – From my wife: “I can’t thank you enough for helping us out with our intimacy problems. This wife is very happy now!”
Richard – Male, Late 40’s
“I was experiencing frequent erectile dysfunction. It felt like I never knew what was going to happen in the bedroom.
The things I tried didn’t always work. It had really impacted my life, I felt like I wasn’t normal. It really affected my confidence.
Sex felt like something that was for other people. I would avoid talking about it, I felt like I had something to hide.
After working with Shay, I was able to get to the bottom of what was going on. I realised why past experiences had such an impact on my sex life for so long. I was making basic mistakes over and over again.
Now I feel so much more positive about my sex life, even my morning erections are back & harder than before!
I’ve recently come out of a long term relationship, without Shay’s help I would have been so afraid of what would happen with a new partner. I now feel more confident both in and out of the bedroom. I no longer feel guilty or shameful about things in the bedroom.
My advice to people who are experiencing sexual performance anxiety is to contact Shay. He will guide you through understanding why it is happening and get it fixed.
I recommend Shay because he has experienced these issues and got over them in his own life. This will improve every area of your life!”
Lance – Male, Early 70’s
“I was experiencing a lot of sex anxiety, particularly around not being able to climax. I found myself overthinking constantly… “What does she think of me?” or “What I should be doing?”
I’d tried a number of treatments, including meditation and long-term psychotherapy.
It was Shay who gave me the tools, to deal with this in an effective way. He led me through a series mindset exercises, where I re-learnt and re-evaluated my attitude towards sex. I am now free of the thoughts which have held me back for years!
I enjoy the present moment and pleasure with my partner. I feel like I have comprehensive set of tools, and a new understanding. It has opened a world of enjoyment!
Shay is a sincere and deep listener. He really made the effort to understand me, and how best to work with me. I’ll never forget that.
I’m 73 and proof that it’s not too late to open up a new world of joy!”
Will – Male, Early 40’s
“Despite wanting to have s*x, I wouldn’t be able to achieve an erection. If I ever did manage to maintain it, I would be unable to climax.
I had ruled-out any medical abnormalities, tried ED medication, and spoken with a sex therapist, but no improvement. This continued over several years until I hit rock bottom… Out of frustration and hopelessness, I broke down in tears during a sexual encounter with a woman I’d started dating.
I felt broken and a failure as a man. I was afraid that any woman who I dated would lose her attraction to me after our first sexual encounter. S*x was filled with feelings of frustration, disappointment, embarrassment, and inadequacy.
Since speaking with Shay, I can now maintain my erection and climax in almost all cases. I’ve also been able to experience new sexual positions that were previously unachievable!
I feel in control of my s*x life. My partner also enjoys our much more vibrant and energised s*x life. In fact, at the time of writing… My most recent sexual encounter was the hottest s*x I’ve ever experienced! I truly believe even better experiences are yet to come!
My advice to men who are experiencing sexual performance anxiety is to firstly rule out any medical abnormalities (e.g. check testosterone levels), then speak with Shay.
Shay’s extensive study in this field and personal experiences overcoming these issues himself, Will help you to identify the root cause and arm you with tools and techniques to rebuild your s*x life.
